The title is aptly appropriate, if nothing for more than the following reasons:
a. I’m single.
b. It’s something that’s been on my mind and nobody else that I know of.
c. It’s a completely opinionated SINGLE perspective (mine, obviously… what makes you think I give a shit about yours?)
Having said that, I’ve come to establish and realize (albeit obvious to many others) that being in a long relationship presents multiple problems and situations for when you suddenly become single. I suppose that it’s never hit me before because my previous relationships prior to this one were for various (and ridiculously short) amounts of time, whereas this last one hit’s the ground at just almost 2 years. Call it being blind because of love or whatever, but it never occurred to me what would necessarily happen when you “suddenly” (don’t worry, we’ll touch more on this in a minute) become single again. First off, you have to wonder how everybody (and at this point I mean EVERYBODY: Friends, family, coworkers, people you don’t know, stalkers, muggers, fish… the list goes on) is going to think. How will they react? Will people start taking sides? I mean, what can truly happen in a situation like this? I suppose that an even bigger question at hand will be… “Is there any way to prevent that sort of bias from actually forming in the mind?”
It’s easy to say “I still love her.” I mean, the same can be said of pretty much every situation in the world regarding something like this. The hard part is always the aftermath of “the decision,” where people begin to take sides. The only problem is that it’s scary when two sides collide together, creating one big situation. “I still love her, but people might think I’m just being a douche.”
… yeah, something like that.
How do we beat that kind of bias? How does one beat that narrow perspective? It’s only natural for humans to form a sort of opinion on everything, no matter how much of a “neutral” stance we take, we’re always forming opinions about absolutely everything. Did you know that Canada has increased the payments for their internet services and added a cap on their dl/ul rate? I’m sure you’ve read about it, but what does that make you feel? Forming an opinion based on something that may almost not be entirely true (for the record, it’s only partly true, but I’m too lazy to go into specifics).This is pretty much what happens right after two people break up. People make a biased opinion based on some random things they’ve heard.
It is what it is, but the big question is how do we beat it? How can we not form opinions based on only partial knowledge and how close we are as friends with the people who broke up. How can we go about our lives trying not having just one opinion…?
How do we break away from just having a single perspective? (You see how I incorporated that? hehe)
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Note: Once again, this blog was intended to make you, the reader, spark thoughts based on what I type (because what I type is an opinion). If you aren’t sparking thought then obviously something happened in the time you read this to the time your brain processed it. Sorry if shit got lost in translation.
